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Why Gwyneth Paltrow, and Other Celebrities, Don’t Get Hunger in America

Gwyneth Paltrow made headlines this weekend with her little food stamp challenge she posted online. Despite their best efforts, Gwyneth Paltrow, and other celebrities, prove they just don’t get hunger in America.

It’s cute when an uber-rich celebrity tries to relate to the rest of us who struggle to buy groceries every week.

Why Gwyneth Paltrow, and Other Celebrities, Don’t Get Hunger in America

Gwyneth Paltrow makes it so easy for us to dislike her.


She tweeted the above challenge and was promptly eaten alive by online critics for it. SNAP stands for Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program, or food stamps, which allows $29 per person to help with a family grocery budget. She was challenged by celebrity chef, Mario Batali to the #FoodBankNYCChallenge, to spend $29 on groceries for one week.

She also tweeted she is “walking in their shoes to see how far we get” (*gag*), but let’s face it, she really is not.

First, SNAP is meant as a supplement program and not to fund an entire grocery budget. SNAP recipients get $29 per person, not $29 for an entire family. The amount also varies by state. Those on SNAP have a job, but need a hand up when it comes to feeding their family.

Second, this grocery haul by Gwyneth isn’t enough to feed a single human being for a week, even a super-skinny one. This picture reminds me of a cleanse one might see on her popular blog, Goop. Also, people who are hungry don’t choose to buy seven limes and organic cilantro, as these are garnishes. We buy protein (like chicken), canned beans, bread, eggs, milk and jars of spaghetti sauce and dry noodles.

Lastly, being poor, struggling, and hungry is seen as a fun challenge to celebrities, not reality. They get to suspend their reality for seven days, ending it with a #IDidIt.

People struggling to feed their family are forced to live this reality Families who are hungry in America are not who you think. Hunger in America isn’t a fun hastag to them with a a self-congratulatory-look-at-me at the end of seven days. It is a hard reality with harder choices.

If celebrities really want be challenged, try living it as real life. For instance, try being a struggling single mom with three kids, a broken down car, and working a 9 hour day. After a long day, that started before dawn, all that mom wants to do is get food on the table for her hungry kids, because it’s 6:30 p.m. and she still needs to help them with homework, bath time, and any other drama that comes along with being a single parent. And, do it for more than a week…Try a month, or three to start.

Try understanding the slight humiliation a mother feels when having to pay for groceries with an EBT card. Knowing that her card is ready to expire and she has to reapply, being forced to prove that she can’t provide fully for her family. Knowing that because she had to spend extra money on an unexpected car repair bill, she will have to also visit the local food bank this week to help with groceries or go without. Telling her child ‘no’ to the name brand cereal and opting for the cheaper cereal. Forget about eating organic, too.

I know other hashtag challenges have been wildly successful, can we say #IceBucketChallenge, but this one is different. What is the point of proving celebrities can eat on $29 a week? To say they did it?

Hey, I will give Gwyneth a #NiceTry and #Kudos only because the internet and talk shows are talking about hunger in America today. But, she gets a #HugeFail on her shopping list and her understanding of the real problem.

Because it’s not about food. It’s about so much more. Until they understand that, they won’t get it.

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freedom of speech or just poor taste?

File this one under: Stupid things women say wear.

Earlier this week when singer Rihanna was caught outside her hotel by some young adoring fans. She did what any self-respecting pop star would do. She posed for pictures with her young fans. Sounds nice, right? Lucky fans. But unfortunately she is now making headlines for her inappropriate choice in jewelry. She was wearing a necklace with the words “F*** YOU”.

In her defense, many people are claiming that wearing this necklace is “Freedom of Speech”. Clearly the necklace is, at the very least, poor taste. But, is poor taste a crime? She is 20-something. And 20-something’s have a history of showing all of us their poor taste. (Think Britney Spears sans underwear!)

I remember a time when I was “young and dumb”. I lacked clear judgment, and yes, taste. I once wore an Ozzy Osbourne t-shirt to a family picnic. It was the “No More Tours Tour” t-shirt. You many have it in your closet too. Pictured on the front of the t-shirt is Ozzy sitting on the toilet with his pants down around his ankles. Not my finest clothing choice. It was simply a What-Not-To-Wear-In-Public-Period moment! I did it anyway because I thought it was cool. Just like I am sure Rihanna thinks her gold necklace is cool. But the important thing is that I learned from my bad taste in clothes.

My is issue isn’t with whether singer Rihanna has the “right” to wear a necklace with the words “F*** YOU” on it. Because, in my opinion, she does, even if I don’t like the message. (That is what is so great about America.) I want to talk about what “Freedom of Speech” really means. Does it mean we can tattoo “F*** YOU” on your forehead and call it freedom of speech? The answer is yes, but I don’t have to like it.

Freedom of speech is the freedom to speak freely without censorship or limitation, or both. The synonymous term freedom of expression is sometimes used to indicate not only freedom of verbal speech but any act of seeking, receiving and imparting information or ideas, regardless of the medium used. In practice, the right to freedom of speech is not absolute in any country and the right is commonly subject to limitations, such as on “hate speech”. According to the Freedom Forum Organization, legal systems, and society at large, recognize limits on the freedom of speech, particularly when freedom of speech conflicts with other values or rights. Limitations to freedom of speech may follow the “harm principle” or the “offense principle”, for example in the case of pornography or hate speech. (Source:

Bottom line: I always say, “Just because you CAN, doesn’t mean you SHOULD.”

Hopefully Rihanna will grow up soon and learn what not to wear.

stupid things women say: latinos look asian

After Latino students from a Las Vegas high school expressed their anger over Nevada U.S. Senate candidate Sharron Angle’s (R) anti-illegal immigrant message she told them…well, you look Asian to me.

“You know, I don’t know that all of you are Latino. Some of you look a little more Asian to me. I don’t know that.”

No doubt Angle has yet to learn the art of self-editing. Angle is becoming a regular here on STWS.

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“Women are realizing it more and more, knowing that they don’t have to settle with a man just to have that child,” Jennifer Aniston said at a press conference promoting her new movie “The Switch” in which she defended her character’s choice to become a mother via artificial insemination.

God designed it so that it takes a man and a women to conceive a child. Taking cells from male and female, it takes BOTH to create a life…each being equally important in the creation of that child. It stands to reason that a mother and father are equally as  important in raising that child too. One definition of “settle” is: to take up an ordered or stable life. And what is so wrong with that? Men and women work best when they work together, that is how it was designed.

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It’s been a good week for stupidity:

Lindsay Lohan: Spoiled Hollywood actress/socialite. Convicted of DUI and sentenced to 90 days in jail and 180 days of rehab. (She will probablly spend a fraction of the 90 days in jail.)

Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani: 43 year old mother of two. Convicted of adultery in Iran (although she was sentenced to die under a rule that allows judges  to convict without evidence called “judge’s knowledge”). She was sentenced to die by stoning (but because of humanitarian outcry, this week she will not be stoned, yet). She already has received 99 lashed for her alleged crime of adultery.

Lohan Tweeted: “No one shall be subjected to torture or cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.” This was in response to HER “inhuman” sentence…not Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani’s!

Here’s one from Washington’s finest:

Sharon Angle: Republican Senate Candidate. Guest on the Alan Stock Show. Answering the question, “What do you say to a young girl…is raped by her father, let’s say, and is pregnant. How do you explain this to her in terms of wanting her to go through the process of having a baby?”

Angle goes on to say that “two wrongs don’t make a right,” and “…they (the pregnant incest victims) found that they had made what was really a lemon situation into lemonade.”

So, let me get this straight. Little girls, raped by their father, carrying their father’s baby should make lemons into lemonade? This isn’t a Leave it to Beaver Show! What’s next? Will Angle tell hate crime victims to stop crying over spilled milk? Or maybe, battered women should stop making mountains out of mole-hills? Look on the bright side, if Shelia Angle does manage to get a Senate seat she can teach us all to turn that frown upside-down.

It was a shameful week for women.

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This one involves Roman Polanski. He was and is still accused of raping a then 13 year old girl. After he plead guilty and waived his right to a trail he fled the country 32 years ago. He is now being extradited from Europe to the US. The View host Whoopi Goldberg had this to say of Polanski and the situation:

“I’m sure it wasn’t rape-rape.”

I am not sure I know what rape-rape really means. Do you? I do know an adult feeding a child drugs and alcohol and then forcing sex on that child is rape.

Rape is a crime of violence and control. I know that a rapist not always a masked man who grabs a women off the street, drags her into the bushes and rapes her in the cover of darkness. I know it’s not what the women is wearing that invites the rape to happen. I know that no woman is “asking for it”. I know that sometimes the rapist is in the position of an authority figure, such as clergy, baseball coach, teacher, parent, and even film director. In this case the rapist used his power over another and raped A CHILD THAT IS ONLY 13 YEARS OLD!

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“Some people are desperate for attention.”

This wonderful quote came from Nadya Suleman (aka Octomom and now star of her very own reality show). She was referring to Kate Gosselins’ (of Jon & Kate + Eight) and Kate’s bikini-clad body appearing in several gossip magazines.

Who are you calling Desperate, Ms. Suleman?

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Heidi Montag (from the scripted reality show ‘The Hills’) said in an interview about her latest Playboy photoshoot that she is “very religious”. She went on to say that she wanted to keep some of the photos “clean” and “covered up” because of that fact.

Words fail me.